{"id":422,"date":"2009-02-14T07:33:17","date_gmt":"2009-02-14T15:33:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/melaniehack.com\/blog\/?p=422"},"modified":"2009-02-14T07:33:17","modified_gmt":"2009-02-14T15:33:17","slug":"some-thoughts-for-surviving-valentines-day","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/melaniehack.com\/blog\/?p=422","title":{"rendered":"Some Thoughts For Surviving Valentine’s Day"},"content":{"rendered":"


\nIf your valentine or loved one has died, Valentine\u2019s Day can be a painful and lonely day\u2014you may be left wondering how to get through it.<\/o:p><\/span><\/p>\n

But it doesn\u2019t have to be a day completely overshadowed with despair and sadness. You can make it a day of remembering, celebrating and honoring your beloved and the relationship you had.<\/o:p><\/span><\/p>\n

As I mentioned in a Blog post around Christmas time<\/a>, you can set a place at the table for your deceased (or have on the table a special object affiliated with your beloved) and cook your loved one\u2019s favorite recipe in their honor. On Facebook I recently posted how I used one of Cindy\u2019s recipes (although I don\u2019t know that it was her favorite) and for a moment she was back in our hearts. It was really neat!<\/o:p><\/span><\/p>\n

Or you might find some peace in talking with other people who can share your loss, feelings and pain\u2014reach out to family or friends.<\/o:p><\/span><\/p>\n

And as you can do during many holidays that are difficult to endure, look through old photo\/memory\/scrapbook albums and feel the love and companionship of your memories.<\/o:p><\/span><\/p>\n

I like doing something good for other people\u2014you could volunteer at a hospice, or wherever you feel compelled to go.<\/o:p><\/span><\/p>\n

And one of my favorite rituals\u2026light a candle in honor of your deceased beloved.<\/o:p><\/span><\/p>\n

And one last thing\u2026don\u2019t forget to show gratitude and love to those people who are still in your life, whether they are near or far. <\/span><\/p>\n

Melanie Hack<\/a>
\nAuthor of Who Killed My Sister, My friend<\/a>
\nRead an excerpt now<\/a>
\nTV Shows and Clips<\/a> about the Death of Cindy James<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

If your valentine or loved one has died, Valentine\u2019s Day can be a painful and lonely day\u2014you may be left wondering how to get through it. But it doesn\u2019t have to be a day completely overshadowed with despair and sadness. You can make it a day of remembering, celebrating and honoring your beloved and the […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[12],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-422","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-holidays"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/melaniehack.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/422","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/melaniehack.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/melaniehack.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/melaniehack.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/melaniehack.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=422"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/melaniehack.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/422\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/melaniehack.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=422"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/melaniehack.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=422"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/melaniehack.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=422"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}