{"id":491,"date":"2009-05-08T07:19:21","date_gmt":"2009-05-08T15:19:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/melaniehack.com\/blog\/?p=491"},"modified":"2009-05-08T07:19:21","modified_gmt":"2009-05-08T15:19:21","slug":"characteristics-associated-with-grief","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/melaniehack.com\/blog\/?p=491","title":{"rendered":"Characteristics Associated With Grief"},"content":{"rendered":"


\nHere is the answer to the last question in my series of six questions<\/a> about grief and bereavement.<\/o:p><\/span><\/p>\n

It is common for you, the grieving person, to:<\/o:p><\/span><\/p>\n

Think that you should have died instead of the loved one.<\/o:p><\/span><\/p>\n

Be angry\u2014towards others, especially family members and\/or god\u2026and angry towards the person who died or towards yourself (especially if you dwell on any arguments you had with the deceased).<\/o:p><\/span><\/p>\n

Be critical of yourself for doing something to, or not doing something for, the person who died.<\/o:p><\/span><\/p>\n

Be preoccupied with thoughts of the deceased.<\/o:p><\/span><\/p>\n

Have a sense as if you are going crazy (because you experience things that are normally not a part of your life\u2014perhaps distractibility, hallucinations, preoccupations\u2026).<\/o:p><\/span><\/p>\n

Alter your coping style (by using alcohol or drugs or abuse…or more of them).<\/o:p><\/span><\/p>\n

Have dreams and vivid memory flashes of the deceased.<\/o:p><\/span><\/p>\n

Reexamine your philosophical beliefs and your life values (you feel you have lost direction in your life so you search for meaning in the loss in order to make sense of it and regain control of your life).<\/o:p><\/span><\/p>\n

Search for meaning in the death (all those \u201cWhy?\u201d questions; sometimes helps you believe the death was not in vain\u2014when the death seemed \u201csenseless and unnecessary\u201d). <\/o:p><\/span><\/p>\n

Think about your own mortality.<\/span><\/p>\n

Melanie Hack<\/a>
\nAuthor of Who Killed My Sister, My friend<\/a>
\nRead an excerpt now<\/a>
\nTV Shows and Clips<\/a> about the Death of Cindy James<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Here is the answer to the last question in my series of six questions about grief and bereavement. It is common for you, the grieving person, to: Think that you should have died instead of the loved one. Be angry\u2014towards others, especially family members and\/or god\u2026and angry towards the person who died or towards yourself […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-491","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-loss-and-grief"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/melaniehack.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/491","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/melaniehack.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/melaniehack.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/melaniehack.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/melaniehack.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=491"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/melaniehack.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/491\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/melaniehack.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=491"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/melaniehack.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=491"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/melaniehack.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=491"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}