There are a lot of options available which allow you to fully express your grief. Find which ones work for you. Give yourself permission to feel whatever you are feeling. It’s OK. Besides expressive arts (as mentioned in my previous Blog) other helpful strategies are: 1)     Screaming into a towel. 2)    The Gestalt approach – […]

Expressive arts can be a great way to explore your inner world of thoughts and feelings. Some people like to draw, paint, use clay, sing, or write music. The important thing is to use rituals that are meaningful to you. Find what your passions, talents and likes are and use them to your advantage in […]

To realize the value of a sister/brother: Ask someone who doesn’t have one. To realize the value of ten years: Ask a newly divorced couple. To realize the value of four years: Ask a graduate. To realize the value of one year: Ask a student who has failed a final exam. To realize the value […]

Letting go doesn’t mean we don’t care.  Letting go doesn’t mean we shut down. Letting go means we stop trying to force outcomes and make people behave. It means we give up resistance to the way things are, for the moment. It means we stop trying to do the impossible—controlling that which we cannot and […]

We find by losing.  We hold fast by letting go.  We become something new by ceasing to be something old. This seems to be close to the heart of that mystery.  I know no more now than I ever did about the far side of death as the last letting-go of all, but now I […]

‘Tis a fearful thing To love What death can touch. To love, to hope, to dream, And oh, to lose. A thing for fools, this, Love, But a holy thing, To love what death can touch. For your life has lived in me; Your laugh once lifted me; Your word was a gift to me. […]

As Martha Hickman explains: “One bright summer afternoon, while our family was on vacation in the Colorado Mountains, my daughter, who by now had grown into a beautiful young woman of almost seventeen, fell from a horse and died.” In the following excerpt from Martha’s writings, Martha talks about herself in the third person as […]

Angels are watching over you in your heart you’ll see, They are always there to help you have faith in what will be. They are ever with you and lovingly will stay, Embracing you with heavenly wings protecting you each day. Angels walk beside you, they understand and care, They will inspire and uplift you […]

“One night I was grieving for my dear Nan who passed away a year at the time. I was lying in my bed and it was complete darkness. My bedroom door was open a little and I happened to look at the door and I saw something that startled me but soon made me at […]

“I was out for an evening with friends and I was driving. There were four other passengers in my car.  The night was terrible, hard driving rain. The road I was traveling was very dark and there wasn’t even any light coming from the headlights of other cars. I had never been on this road […]