Letting go is a powerful expression of love. Remember the poem: “If you love something let it go, If it comes back to you it’s yours, If it doesn’t, it never was.” “But letting go is so painful,” you think to yourself. (Sometimes you may feel that the holding on is all that’s keeping you […]

“You can shed tears that she is gone, or you can smile because she has lived. You can close your eyes and pray that she’ll come back, or you can open your eyes and see all she’s left. Your heart can be empty because you can’t see her, or you can be full of the […]

To laugh is to risk appearing the fool. To weep is to risk being called sentimental. To reach out to another is to risk involvement. To expose feelings is to risk showing your true self. To place your ideas and dreams before the crowd is to risk being called naïve. To love is to risk […]

A heartfelt thanks to Saphra, Justin, Russ, Tony, Peter, Vivian, Marita, Johan, Fredric, Sophie, Sara, Dean, Dwight and nameless others (all from their various corners of the earth), who recently lifted and supported my family and me in prayer and meditation, hoping we would find true peace and a closing to Cindy’s mysterious death. Together […]

At the end of 1989 I remember thinking, “Once again another year has come to an end and I’m on the verge of a new decade.” It had been difficult for me to review ’89 because I automatically thought of Cindy’s death. And that hadn’t occurred until the end of May yet the first 4¾ […]

This holiday season I was brought to tears when I opened a gift on Christmas morning from people I have never met. Such thoughtfulness and generosity from “strangers” blew me away. (Strangers no more – thanks Dwight and Dean.) It was a hand painted canvas, based on the designs of Rhonda Kullberg (a Canadian artist), […]

Blessings to each of you. May you receive in ten-fold all the love and caring that you willingly give to others. I hope you realize how special you are and how you are valued.

A compliment. Silence. A laugh. A walk, either in the crisp snow or rain. Make a snow angel. Surprise someone. Leave a quarter (or more) where someone will find it. Help someone who’s stuck in the snow. Watch the sunset or sunrise. Hide a love note for a loved one to find. Look at old […]

Healing involves being willing to hurt more in order to hurt much less. Melanie Hack Author of Who Killed My Sister, My Friend Read an excerpt now TV Shows and Clips about the death of Cindy James

Let’s build up your inner spirit and give you strength for the holidays! Try praising yourself as much as you can instead of criticizing yourself—tell yourself how well you are doing with every tiny thing. Look in the mirror…look into your eyes and forgive yourself—you are doing the best you can. Don’t hate yourself for […]