Someone recently wrote to me: “I remember when your sister was found. I remember thinking that there was no way a person could “hog tie” themselves the way your sister had. Especially after an overdose. She would have vomited. Where was the evidence of that? To my understanding there wasn’t any which would indicate she […]

In case you missed the comment that Rita posted on the March 3rd Blog, here it is: “I remember this story [Cindy James] very well. I remember how it was reported in the media. I don’t believe your sister was mentally ill. I think she had too many people around her that would have suspected […]

When I puzzled over whether it was possible for my sister’s body to have lain for two weeks near the abandoned party-place where her body was discovered and remain unseen and not attract scavengers, this is one email response I received from someone who had lived near the scene: “About Cindy being hidden there for […]

When someone recently wrote to me about what her curiosity (with the place where Cindy’s tied-up body was found) had led her and her friend to do, I responded with: “I too went to the spot where Cindy was found and roamed around there looking for clues. And when I went back years later, I […]

Here is an excerpt from an email I recently received from someone who came across my website while she was searching for new information about my sister’s death: “I was 13 years old and living just two blocks away from the scene back when her [Cindy James] body was discovered in that terrifying, awful way. […]

Now I think if my sister, Cindy James, had killed herself and planned it, on some levels it would not have been easy (so much to consider!): She would have had to spend time weighing up the different methods and making it look like murder because, after all, if she just wanted to take her […]

Not all suicides are planned in advance (not everyone leaves suicide notes or arranges their affairs). So some people who attempt suicide mean to die (and are disappointed when it fails) and some don’t (and are relieved when it doesn’t work). And some haven’t really made up their minds (they don’t care). Many young people […]

Wilf was a sweet 60-year-old man suffering from Huntington’s chorea. I visited Wilf every week. I took him (and his wheelchair, which folded into the trunk of my little car) wherever he wanted to go…to the mall…to the park…to visit friends…. He always insisted I join in any fun or conversations with his friends. Sometimes […]

For a season there must be pain- For a little, little space I shall lose the sight of her face, Take back the old life again While she is at rest in her place. For a season this pain must endure, For a little, little while I shall sigh more often than smile Till Time […]

Imagine retiring or finding yourself unemployed after years of service (losing your role as a productive individual; experiencing a decline in income or earning power). And imagine losing your independence, health or ability to care for yourself on a day-to-day basis. Then imagine losing long-time friends or associates, one after the other…with increasing frequency. And […]