When people ask you how you are doing, don’t always say, “Fine.”

Let some people know how terrible you feel. It can help when you talk with a dear friend who listens empathically…or with someone who has “been there” and survived…those people speak your language of pain.

And only they can truly say, “I understand…I know…and you are not alone!”

Then reach out and try to help others in some small way—Doing this is a baby step…a diversion…a break…that helps you step away from dwelling on yourself and your pain…at least for a little while…and then you can jump back in.

Melanie Hack
Author of Who Killed My Sister, My friend
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