When someone you love dies (or when you feel a tremendous loss), everything changes—your hopes, your dreams, your way of living…everything—it’s as if you are closed off, living in a parallel universe and from your perch you are watching everyone else living.

Cindy knew what that felt like. To her journal she shared how vivid images of some of the more frightening things she could not talk about left her feeling “so alone … no one in the universe will ever understand … like I somehow live on a different planet from everyone else. Like I’m existing alongside them but always separate.”

Yes, after experiencing loss that leaves you wondering if you will ever be able to express your feelings and thoughts in a way that anyone could ever understand, your life will never be the same. But you can begin to start again—to discover a new life. (And no, in rediscovering your life, you aren’t being disloyal to the person who died.)

In another Blog post I’ll share some ideas for moving forward with greater ease, whether you feel your spirit, your pride, your perception of life, your expectations for the future, your self-worth, or anything else has been taken away.

Melanie Hack
Author of Who Killed My Sister, My friend
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TV Shows and Clips about the Death of Cindy James