“My brother and I were not told that our father was dying. We found out after he died that he and his wife had known for months in advance. This experience left my brother and me angry and sad. We felt like we have been cheated out of an opportunity for some meaningful last moments and a chance to give our love to him (by whatever we could do for him) one last time. We have forgiven our father and stepmother but have learned a lesson about sharing with people who love you. I know my father wasn’t trying to be selfish or exclude us, but that was how it felt. I love him for wanting to be strong for us to the very end but I wished he hadn’t done it that way. I understand he was acting from a place of love and paternal protection, but if I am ever in a similar situation I know I’ll tell my children that I’m dying.”

~Marci

Melanie Hack
Author of Who Killed My Sister, My friend
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