One way to find out what is on the mind of your dying beloved is to have the person list what they would do if they had ten years to live; five years; one year; three months; or less.

“Are there any unfilled obligations to family members or friends you want to deal with?”

“Are there conversations you would like to have?”

“Are there messages you would wish to convey?”

“Are there any objects, feelings, or thoughts to share with others before you die?”

“Any personal desires from the past you would like to fulfill?”

“Is there a debt to repay?”

“Do you want to produce a writing or recording to leave for posterity?”

“Is there information about your own religious or moral beliefs to be shared with others?”

“How do you want people to treat you when you are close to death?”

“Is there anything you would specifically want done?”

“That you would not want done?”

“Are there any religious practices you would want observed?”

“Is there anything that is normally done which you do not want?”

“Is there anything you would specifically want done for people you love?”

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Melanie Hack
Author of Who Killed My Sister, My friend
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