Accident, or misadventure (an error; an accident that causes serious injury or death to a person and that does not involve negligence, wrongful purpose, or unlawful conduct), is another theory about my sister Cindy’s death. Maybe you’re wondering how the heck that’s possible—How could someone’s death be an accident when she has ten times the […]

A tape with two phone calls was played at the 1990 inquest examining Cindy James’s death. (She disappeared May 25, 1989 and her body was found on June 8, 1989.) Those two calls had been received on Cindy’s ex-husband’s answering machine two weeks prior to Cindy’s October 1988 attack. At 11:17pm Tuesday, October 11, 1988, […]

Many of you have written to me asking for tips and thoughts on topics related to grief and loss and death: Emotions (Anger—I recently talked a bit about that; Guilt; Depression…) Dealing with angry feelings towards a murderer Teen suicide Grieving something “hidden,” or tangential (miscarriage, disability, relationship breakup, getting fired…) How to say goodbye […]

So, as stated in a previous Blog: … How do you help a victim like my sister, Cindy James? I would think that first of all we would have needed to firmly establish, with documented irrefutable proof, whether Cindy was indeed orchestrating some of her harassment or not. That’s where I believe 24-hour surveillance on […]

No matter whom you listen to for the story of Cindy James, one thing is clear. Her premature death was preventable. If only her family, her friends, her co-workers, and the social support services and institutions pulled into Cindy’s world had dug a little deeper. … To my knowledge, nobody had the whole story. And […]

While I was researching for my book Who Killed My Sister, My Friend I came across some interesting things: · The receipt for the groceries Cindy purchased on the day she died. (Police never found that receipt. They speculated she had purchased the nylon stockings that were wrapped around her neck at death—the receipt shows […]

Someone recently wrote to me, “When she [Cindy] turned up dead by ‘suicide’ [according to the police theory] I was flabbergasted that she had managed to hog tie herself and that everyone was buying it.” In another email someone pointed out that there are a number of key points that point to murder rather than […]

Ever since I created my website that focuses on the mysterious death of my sister, Cindy James, and before my book was finished, people have been contacting me through it. It has been wonderful to receive so many messages from people all over the world. And it is very rewarding to have contact with real […]

I believe society failed my sister, Cindy James, through a lack of proper support over a span of years. I believe Cindy was a victim—a victim of society’s ignorance and a victim of abuse, unable to know where to turn for help or who to trust or what to do. During her seven years of […]

“It must be so hard not knowing what happened to your sister.”—I hear that a lot! So here’s the big question—how do you (Or can you?) come to a resolution with your grief if you aren’t even sure if the person you are grieving for was murdered or committed suicide? Or how about if you […]