Since love is eternal, death need not be viewed as fearful. Melanie Hack Author of Who Killed My Sister, My friend Read an excerpt now TV Shows and Clips about the Death of Cindy James

After my sister Cindy died in 1989, I hated myself for not having helped her out more in 1986 before I moved to the Yukon—3 years earlier when Cindy was severely depressed after the house fire, she had tried to starve herself to death and I had been afraid. I hadn’t known what to do. […]

There are 12 principles of attitudinal healing and I’ll be exploring them (and how they can help in grieving) in several Blogs. Attitudinal healing affirms that we are responsible for our thoughts and whatever feelings we experience. Attitudinal healing encourages us to reexamine our relationships, bringing them into the present by releasing past judgments and […]

Recently when my daughter’s hamster and a schoolmate died, she received condolence cards and hugs and emails…from many people. Thank you Marsha and family, Dwight, Robin, Zoë, Karlee, Starr, Jen, Hayley, Alexia, Shaelyn, Marlene… And thank you Chan Do for passing on the notes from Cheng Sun and family, Marc, Jack, Sarlene, Nexus and Whan […]

As you re-evaluate the meaning of your life during whatever crisis you face, you often discover your life mission—And that gives you a greater sense of direction and purpose. Sometimes when you find yourself in crisis, you will find an inner strength you never knew existed. And as hard as this is to believe, this […]

To my dear family and friends, Thank-you for all the love and blessings you’ve sent my way since my death. You see…I’ve received them all! For I am with you still. It’s such a special feeling to know I have loved ones as wonderful as you. So on this special day—on this very special day—I […]

Poetry is a wonderful way to express your feelings on Valentine’s Day (or any time). I came across a beautiful Valentine’s poem dedicated to a deceased child (and sent by a little white dove—on the wings of love) from a parent. It’s called Valentines…to Heaven. (If you click on the link, have your music on […]

After my sister, Cindy James (Cynthia Hack), died, I cried a lot of emotional tears, and at unexpected times: When I wrote to a family member or a friend and “talked” about Cindy or how I’d changed as a result of her death or what I’d learned. When I did something that I knew Cindy […]

Once a day and sometimes more You knock upon my daydreams door. And I say warmly, “Come right in. I’m glad you’re here with me again.” Then we sit down and have a chat Recalling this, discussing that Until some task that I must do Forces me away from you. Reluctantly I say goodbye, Smiling […]

As I promised in my last Blog, here are a few helpful ideas about saying goodbye. You could: Write a letter (or a note, a wish, a prayer, a poem) to affirm the powerful emotions of love, longing and gratitude, and release feelings of sorrow, anger, regret and guilt and then burn it. Watch the […]