Between our first inhale at birth and our last exhale at death, some part of us is always dying… When I was a child and Dad’s military career took most of my immediate family (excluding my oldest brother and sister, Cindy) from Canada to Europe, a world died. (Those who leave their native land to […]

For five minutes at the beginning of your day, consider the ways you are attached to its outcome: How do you expect others in your life to behave? What fears do you have about how life will unfold today? What are you afraid might happen unexpectedly? How do you expect yourself to perform? What “things” […]

Have you noticed that no one seems to die at the end of their life? People always seem to die before their life is over. Melanie Hack Author of Who Killed My Sister, My friend Read an excerpt now TV Shows and Clips about the Death of Cindy James

In my search for an answer to Cindy’s death, gathering facts of the death process helped me to find an understanding of death. I wanted to know: What is it like? What actually happens while I’m dying? Does anybody really know? How painful is it? How does my body shut down in death? When am […]

Set aside ten minutes today for this important topic. Sit quietly in a quiet place. For the first five minutes, think about what death is, from your own perspective. Try to go past any platitudes or teachings about death that were given you by someone else. Consider your own fears, and be as honest as […]

Since love is eternal, death need not be viewed as fearful. Melanie Hack Author of Who Killed My Sister, My friend Read an excerpt now TV Shows and Clips about the Death of Cindy James

In her 70’s my mother became ill with what would eventually, after a long decline, be labeled as Alzheimer’s disease. But at the onset it seemed like a combination of expected dementia due to aging, and stress over the death of her daughter, my sister, Cindy. I remember being extremely upset and talking to a […]

After my sister Cindy died in 1989, I hated myself for not having helped her out more in 1986 before I moved to the Yukon—3 years earlier when Cindy was severely depressed after the house fire, she had tried to starve herself to death and I had been afraid. I hadn’t known what to do. […]

There are 12 principles of attitudinal healing and I’ll be exploring them (and how they can help in grieving) in several Blogs. Attitudinal healing affirms that we are responsible for our thoughts and whatever feelings we experience. Attitudinal healing encourages us to reexamine our relationships, bringing them into the present by releasing past judgments and […]

Recently when my daughter’s hamster and a schoolmate died, she received condolence cards and hugs and emails…from many people. Thank you Marsha and family, Dwight, Robin, Zoë, Karlee, Starr, Jen, Hayley, Alexia, Shaelyn, Marlene… And thank you Chan Do for passing on the notes from Cheng Sun and family, Marc, Jack, Sarlene, Nexus and Whan […]